8 Reasons Neil is Successful, And You Are Not

One thing I get asked frequently is how did you become successful. Usually when people ask this they are looking for 1 answer, but the truth is there are a lot of factors that caused my success.

1. Location – I live in Orange County California. It isn’t the silicon valley of the world, but there are a lot of big companies out here and a lot of rich people that can come in handy. Overall I am pretty central because I am 30 minutes away from Los Angeles and I am an hour flight from San Francisco.
2. Speaking – when most people speak they tell the audience what they want to hear. When I speak I tell the audience the truth, whether they like it or not. By doing this you can gain the respect of thousands of people every year, as well as obtain paid contracts from a few of the conference attendees.
3. Blogging – a great way to spread your knowledge to the masses is to give them advice. It is an easy thing to do if you have a blog. The key with blogging is to lay it all out there because sooner or later people are going to know what you know, so might as well be the first one to share the information and get credit for it.
4. Networking – whether you are shy or not there is always a way to get to know more people. For me, I enjoy networking in person, but you can also network through the web. Knowing tons of people on a personal level is never a bad thing. It maybe time consuming at first, but it can be advantageous in the future. Just keep in mind, you need to network with the little guy and not just the big guy.
5. Sucking up – some people like their ego being stroked, so I stroke it. By sucking up to certain individuals they will start liking you and many of their followers will also want to get to know you.
6. Talking shit – just how sucking up works with some individuals, others may prefer it when people talk shit to them. I have done this multiple times in the past and it works well. If you think about all the big fish in the sea, too many people hit them up saying how great or cool they are. So I take the opposite approach by telling them how they suck and point out everything they are doing wrong. This may seem like a way to build enemies, but it is actually a great way to build friends.
7. Age – I’m a 22-year-old kid and when I am the only young person in a room, I stand out. I use age to my advantage all the time, and if you are young like me I recommend doing the same. On the other hand if you are old, there is not much you can do to leverage your age other than to share your experiences.
8. Risk taker – I have very little to lose, so I take risks whenever I can. I currently run a business, go to college, and still live at home. I have no personal expenses because of my parents, which means if I lose everything I can leech off my parents. You may not be able to do the same as me, but it doesn’t mean you can’t take risks. Take as much risk as you feel comfortable with or even better take a bit more than you feel comfortable with. Whatever you decide to do, just take on some risk.

Hopefully my experiences help you become more successful in life.
by Neil Patel on April 10, 2008

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Single Stands for Success: Is Your Relationship Making You Lazy?

Good news for single people: you don’t need a partner to succeed. In fact, a relationship might just get in the way. As nice as it is to have a support system during difficult times, relying on someone to accomplish a goal may actually hold you back. A study found that people who have an encouraging romantic partner are less likely to reach their aspirations. Evidently, people who feel supported become complacent and their drive to succeed suffers.

The study consisted of a series of three experiments, with the first one looking at women who were trying to get healthy and lose weight. The people who felt most supported by a partner spent less time working out to reach their fitness goal. Another study focused primarily on academic success. Subjects who indicated that they generally relied on a partner to succeed took significantly more time to complete an academic task deemed “easy” than their single peers. The final experiment demonstrated that career goals are also thrown by the wayside. Despite having career aspirations, the women who were most committed to their partners indicated they intended to put in less effort to achieve these goals than the women without a strong sense of support.

Meanwhile, if you’re in a loving partnership, obviously the solution isn’t to dump a supportive mate. However, when you have something you would like to accomplish, don’t let your effort waver just because somebody’s got your back. Remember that you are your own best motivator and that nobody is going to help you achieve your own goals quite like you can.

By Kevin Mathews on May 03, 2011
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Is Reality T.V. Creating Idiots?

In a word...yes. Reality T.V. is putting up a huge front that makes it seem okay to be an idiot. Example, "16 and pregnant"; people watch this and hope for the best for a girl who has a child but is barely old enough to take a driving test; barely smart enough to want to finish school; and has no direction. My thoughts, your best bet, is to avoid being pregnant at 16, and maybe focus on other things..I dunno..maybe graduating High School or being in a relationship that can withstand the impact of adding a baby. Not only is it giving people false hope and ideas, but the majority of what people see as "reality" is scripted and not even real. I mean seriously, you've got a house full of "women" who compete.... to date Flavor Flav..Need I say more? No...but I will. The worse part about it, is that this is glorifying the bad behavior of men and women, making it seem okay to do the dumb things these "reality stars" do. Jersey Shore; "Smushing" anyone you take home from a club can be fun,.. or it can lead to an STD..I'm just saying, there's real shit out here than can fuck up your whole "reality", but that shits real...unlike the reality t.v shows you watch. No second takes, scripts or any of that. Keep in mind people, when you go to do these things the reality stars do, there's no cameras...in reality, nobody cares. The people affected most by the bad decisions you make are the people closest to you; and becoming addicted to reality t.v., or trying to mimic what you see on reality t.v, makes you a person that's simply existing, waiting to become a statistic, that will never reach your full potential. Unless you when American Idol, because then, your a slave..but that's a whole new story.

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